Is fear good?

No realky think about it. Why do we have fear. Probably to run away from something.

So why do all the people in some internet, old or whatever, write about: “face your fears!”

“I should run away from them dude?!” (I get the ‘dude’ from Joe Rogan vs Sanja podcast, it get kinda sucesful, popularity vise) is the feeling.

See? My instinct. Is it instinct right?

My instinct is telling me: ”Run away, danger!” Like now.

But my brain gets all those thoughts: ”You shouldn’t run! Face it. You should face it.” And those stuff.

And you are somewhere in between. And it’s the worst. It’s the donkey place.

My tecaher once said that to me. That I am a donkey, not knowhing where to go to feed and then starved to death in between options.

Now, I starved couple of times. It kinda comfortable too. I don’t need to pick the wrong one you know? It feels safe. Till I am picking. I have the option to choose. I can. But when you pick, it all collapses to one.

But the problem here is we are picking. Okay, I wouldn’t finish this.

I don’t like where this is pointing.

I didn’t finish it here, because it was pointing to a fact, that you always pick. Whether you want it or not. There is a option of waiting that you pick. And it feels horrible.

Where was I? Oh yes. I was talking about fear, and if it has any value.

First: “It should point us to a potential danger. “

Our attention, grab and put it there. “Look, you might die.” like now with covid stuff. Also, I am kinda split now. My father is sick, and I am home. But I didn’t had a long contact, and was thinking to run away to my sister. Make a tent there. But I fricked it up, by calling her first. And she said no.

Listen when you want to make something, don’t ask first. Then you are screwed and cannot tell:”Huh, but I didn’t know.” Now, I don’t know what to do.

I am thinking whether my fear has a value. Or I should go like juggernaut (the one from X-mens) and throw myself throw it. In this case don’t care and act like I am not, nothing is happenignlive like normal.

See it can get slippery. What value does my fear had.

(Here I noticed something interesting. It the thing or scenario went to a different extreme of: “what I should act like normal?!”) and it isn’t good. Or I don’t know.

I was laways in the past a guy who wanted to listen to his fears, and take them as friend. But now, I am no longer, doing that. (Because of some lies, our relationship got broke a bit. I was following an idea: “finish the thing no matter what.” And we got hurt and stuff went sideways.)

See so what do we do.

One thing that I was doing was to write them down. All the fears. (Funny how fast you can do that). And then prepare, prevent, and repair possibly. Stoics did that.

I have hard time mainly with the last step. Its hard on me. I don’t usually like to go into repair, if I don’t need to. Rather use the prevent.

And I don’t have any other advice really here. I wouldn’t go any of those: ”notice how do you feel and stuff” I am afraid of those.

They can sleep you in. And it ends up worse (because you stopped and not acted like the donkey) and didn’t act on that fear.

And then feel sorry, tap your head on the wall. That you should have done it. And regret welcome.

So, I am not really a fan of the sitting it out one. I don’t know. Fears can be irrational but, sometimes it’s too late for the rationality to kick in. When it does, it might be late.

Okay, here I started to get chills that I am giving you a really bad advice. Here is one that I’ve used in the past. When there are irrational fears pick those compared to rational ones. The ones that are closer. But this can go sideways too.

Thats why it was made. To not get lost in thoughts in front of a danger. You need to be quick. Late is just late.

Now what do I do now? Donkey.

The in between options tend to be the worst ones. The closer you are to a complete run or a complete facing. The better the long term consequences.

There is no shame in running away (there is but …) good fucking luck.